Adolescent Relationship Issues

Children and adolescents are exposed to various situations in their growing up period where they come across interpersonal difficulties. Fight with friends, experiencing shame in class, rejection by a group, isolation, betrayal by close companions to heterosexual experiences involving bullying, teasing and romantic conflicts. Children unlike adults have not yet developed resilience and conflict resolution skills to deal with relationship difficulties and address them wisely. Children due to lack of understanding, poor role modeling or immature/impulsive internal emotional systems can often face difficulties in relationships.

Younger children if you observe closely, find themselves left out when not included by friends in activities, feel sad, seek parents or others in the family to play with. When they do not find adequate stimulation to feel happy with others, start engaging in isolated self-reinforcing activities like video-games, solo play, watching excessive television or finding comfort in eating or disturbing others in the house to seek attention. Older children depending upon their stage of growth and level of involvement with friends engage in more solitary activities like playing excessive video games, constantly being on watch for social networking sites, becoming more irritable.

Relationship handling difficulties can manifest in various problems in children’s lives:
Poor academic performance due to lack of attention concentration
Irritable nature and impulsive reactions
Expressive anxiety in attending school, lack of interest in going to school
Sudden change in active involvement of the child in previously enjoyable tasks
Self Harm Behavior
Lack of confidence & poor self esteem
Showing behavior problems when experiencing difficulty or shame in expressing the interpersonal conflict, about being bullied/teased more aggressive,
hyperactive and oppositional

Relationships offer opportunities for getting acquainted with the social norms and processes involved in interpersonal relationships, and for learning social skills. When problems persist and children do not find adequate help, guidance to deal with them, can lead to problems such as loneliness, depression and anxiety, as well as physical health problems.